It’s frustrating when our children don’t seem to listen.
And when they don’t pay attention to what you are saying at home, you have to wonder what they are missing at school!
In 20 years of teaching Martial Arts in our community, we’ve developed a 5 step approach to teach the skill of listening. You can easily teach these 5 steps to your child!
2.) Direct Eye Contact - Insist on it when you are speaking to your child. They will then be able to focus on the words being said.
3.) Repeat The Message Back to The Speaker (When Possible) - Have a child repeat what you just said to them. For example, a child might say, “So, Mom, you would like me to do my homework and pick up my room before I go outside to play?” This lets the speaker know your child has understood.
4.) Ask Questions - Coach your children to ask respectful questions. This shows that they are paying attention and care about what the other person is saying!
Any child can learn these skills even young children can be taught these steps. Begin by reading them to your kids and then practicing each skill!
When you observe your child losing focus, just the reminder, “Remember the 5 listening skills!” will refocus them.
And of course, watch like a hawk for situations when your child does listen effectively. Catch them doing it right and follow up with a huge dose of appreciation, like, ‘I am so proud of you for listening to what I said!”
If you have any questions about the 5 Essential Listening Skills for Kids, give me a call at 623-935-5759.
I would be happy to help!
5.) Look for More Information - Teach your children especially older children to ask themselves, “How does the speaker feel about what they are saying?” Angry? Are they bored? Interested? Concerned?
1.) Listening Position - teach your child when it’s time to listen to you or a teacher they must sit or stand up straight. Shoulders back. Lift chest. Chin high. This alone can double listening retention.